I used to hate bumper cars. They jostled me all over and there was never any ability to predict WHO was going to crash into me, and just when I’d selected a trajectory – someone would slam into me from a blind side and send me off the other way or jostle me entirely. Sometimes it even came with a little pain the next day.
It was entirely unpredictable, so I let everyone else ride it.
A microcosm of the control that I desire in my life, maybe.
But I’ve been thinking lately…
What if people that enter your life are just spiritual bumper cars?
Hear me out.
In society today, they sell us this dream. We have this idea of the ultimate reality – buying into a “traditional” career trajectory, finding that perfect someone that “completes us”, the perfect white dress fairytale wedding, buying a home, and have babies!
But when that doesn’t actually complete us?
Consume ALL the things.
Use shopping to make yourself feel better.
Use food to make yourself feel better.
Use people to make yourself feel better.
Use alcohol to make yourself feel better.
Use drugs to make yourself feel better.
But guess what happens? We don’t feel better.
We chain ourselves to this one human – because this is it, this is what they told us happiness is supposed to look like. We put all these pressures on them, be everything I need, everything I’ve ever wanted, be faithful, be happy, be kind, be unwaveringly loyal…
But what if that’s not what life is about?
What if we’re magnetically attracted to people’s looks and energies not because they’re our only human forever, but because we have missions with them?
Because they’re part of our growth.
Because we have contracts from past lives that we need to fulfill with them? Because we’re here to change the world with them?
Because they’re here to highlight the damaged parts of ourselves or the spaces we’re not acknowledging so that we can help them find the resources they need to heal themselves?
Call them angels, soul family, whatever you want.
Every single person attracted into your life has a purpose to fulfill.
Spirituality is a bit of a weird rabbit hole, but the more experiences I have with the people that come in and out of my life – the more I start to see a pattern.
I’m here to change people’s courses.
I’m here to bring them to themselves.
I’m here to show them the endless potential that lies within.
(Not everyone likes that, for the record.)
When I look around at the people in my life, and the people that are attracted into my life and the spaces and roles I fulfill, I now know why people are attracted into my life.
Your aesthetic, your magnetic energy, everything about you attracts the people meant to be within your circle and you have roles to fill. Maybe for one person that’s to go on a few dates and help them realize something about themselves, maybe for another person it’s to find those common interests and explore a crazy amazing project, maybe for someone else it’s to introduce them to a person or people you know, maybe for another it’s to show them that their existing life path isn’t serving their highest and greatest good.
Sometimes we have no idea how great of a role someone will play in our lives.
I think that’s why Crash is one of my favorite movies. Because it tells the story of tons of different characters that are from entirely different cultures, different backgrounds, different races and it smashes them all together in a series of random life occurrences. It shows that everyone has a struggle, and that sometimes people come crashing into our life because we need to feel something else. That maybe it’s time to move in a new direction out of the stagnancy of a sometimes seemingly pointless existence.
Graham Waters: It’s the sense of touch. In any real city, you walk, you know? You brush past people, people bump into you. In L.A., nobody touches you. We’re always behind this metal and glass. I think we miss that touch so much, that we crash into each other, just so we can feel something.
Maybe the next time you find yourself magnetized to someone, don’t explore it as a potential mate. Explore it as:
What is this human here to teach me?
How can I learn?
Where do our common goals lie?
How can we help each other?
Sometimes I find that just starting conversations is all you need to determine exactly your universal role in someone’s life.
Sometimes we have to follow those random feelings and explore them for a bit to understand – what’s on the other side?
If we can stop shoving people into roles and voids that we have within ourselves and stop trying to control where we see something going or don’t see it going – maybe we can release it all to the universe and allow someone’s role to be exactly what it’s going to be in our lives.
Maybe if we just let this game of spiritual bumper cars play out, the trajectory will mean less to us and the control over the destination won’t be so important and we can just enjoy the ride.
Cause that’s what this life is really for. Finding joy in the simple and releasing everything we can and learning all the lessons that come and finding the opportunity where it exists, letting go of what doesn’t stay, loving open heartedly what does and just… healing our own inner bullshit and finding our light in the process.
Just make sure you hit up the spiritual chiropractor for all the aches and pains along the way.
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